Did you find out the sex of you baby before birth

We won't be finding out what sex Button is


Since I fell pregnant with M people have been surprised that I did not want to know what the sex of my baby was until I gave birth. This time round nothing has changed and once again I will not be finding out the sex of the baby when I have my 20 week scan on Thursday.



I have varying comments from people about this, from complete surprise that I wouldn't want to know, to confusing as to why I would't want to find out, to happiness that I am not finding out.

Well first it annoys me when people say I don't want to know. That couldn't be further from the truth, I would love to know. Looking at baby clothing and not being able to buy something incase it is not that sex is infuriating. Seeing a bargain in the sale that is either boyish or girly but not being able to snap it up can be annoying. I spend the whole of my pregnancies playing the "what will it be game" wishing I knew but knowing deep down that I would much rather the surprise at the end of the pregnancy. Going through whatever birth entails and hearing the words "It's a ......" is what motivates me not to find out.

When we had M we were convinced that she was a he. I would say maybe in the region of 95% certainty. Everyone, and I mean everyone, said boy. There were only two people in the entire pregnancy who said girl. Everyone else, friends, family and strangers all guessed boy.

We went down into the theatre to have our emergency section (bummer) and I think we still thought boy so can you imagine how amazing, shocking, gobsmacking it was when my husband eventually managed to spit the words out "Its a girl!!!!". That. That is what made having a section bearable. That is what made waiting until I got my first cuddle from her bearable. It still fills me with so much emotion now. A girl.

This is why I will not find out the sex on Thursday or at any other point throughout the next 21 weeks until our baby is hear and reveals for him or herself what sex it is!

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Training Mummy

Training Mummy is a 30 something mum to two beautiful children - a girl born February 2014 and a boy born in October 2015.

15 comments :

  1. How exciting for you though! I'm too impatient and HAD to find out just do my organised self was ready! 20
    Weeks already! This pregnancy is flying by!

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  2. Ohh very exciting for you! I didn't find out with my eldest....Only because when I was scanned they couldn't tell but I had a feeling she was a girl and I was right....I did with my youngest. I was desperate to know.

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  3. Ah that's a lovely story, I'm glad she got you through that frightening time id be scared anyway ! We found out with both of ours if we had another (no plans) we wouldn't and that's because I have 'one of each' so it'd be a nice surprise x

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  4. Awww that would be a nice surprise. I would love to know if I am having another daughter or if I have a son inside me but I have made it to 20 weeks without knowing so I will get there again! Ahhhh it will be a long 20 weeks

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  5. I am desperate to know but know if I did find out I would be disappointed in myself for finding out. I thought M was a boy. I was wrong lol

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  6. Haha I know, you knew you were having a boy before I knew I had a girl! We never really bought anything that we needed to know sex. Had about six sleep suits and vests and knew we would get gifts or have time for R to get clothes before we needed. 20 weeks! Can't believe I am half way. Have started to feel it a wee bit yesterday but not really. I guess now I am feeling kicks more often I might start to feel pregnant?

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  7. I never found with my oldest and i too was convinced i was having a boy but had a girl and i loved the suprise of finding out. But with second i found out what i was having at my 20 week scan as we were all so eager to find out. Then with my third we never found out at the 20 week scan but we had a 28 week scan and as soon as we had the scan the first thing we seen was baby had his legs open and there was no denying he was a boy! It will be so nice for you finding out when you have him or her what you have though as it is the best surprise everx

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  8. That is nice that you have found out in different ways with all three! I though M was a boy from day of conception. We had a late scan at 40 weeks and I was convinced that I saw boy bits so that was me convinced. Wrong!
    I agree, whatever way you find out it is the nicest surprise ever!

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  9. I couldn't imagine not knowing, I love buying clothes too much and there really aren't many unisex options. With our first we waited until 20 weeks but we had a early private scan this time. If we ever had enough I might go for a surprise as we would be prepared after having 1 of each lol xx

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  10. That is one of the things that annoyed me, I couldn't buy clothes and unisex was just a bit boring. Luckily we did find some bright unisex things and we can reuse these for this baby.

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  11. I totally understand the reasons people don't find out but i found out both times. In the end I was really glad as because I had a section under general anaesthetic and the drugs left me so confused that I barely knew I had a baby until the next day and wouldn't have taken in that he was a boy and would have been the last to know. We found out second time too, again I was glad as I and everyone else was convinced he was a girl and it gave me a chance to deal with my feelings on that.
    If we had another I like the idea of not finding out but i'm not sure I could be that patient!

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  12. Oh wow what a trauma! I can totally understand why people find out the sex and there is no wrong or right. We thought M was a boy until she was born, this time round I think it is boy again but who knows lol

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  13. For me, I never wanted to know. I control a lot of the information in pregnancy, ie: from telling hubs I think I might be pregnant to confirming it via a test and ten things like telling him when the baby is kicking, moving etc.
    Announcing the gender is the one thing he gets to tell me :-)

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  14. I have never wanted to know either. We are with you that 9 month is about me and baby first and telling of the sex is the bit that the dad should do

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  15. Yes we found out - I honestly didn't see any point in not knowing, it was a surprise when we found out, as it is at a birth, but with less going on and I was more awake! And it made me more keen than ever to meet her. I'd do the same again (not that I will have the chance as I'm 50 now!)

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