Facebook or not Facebook?

To share or not to share

Recently I was involved in a conversation thread about announcing pregnancy on Facebook. For many, if not most, it seemed bizarre that people would choose not to announce their pregnancy online, especially when the scans are out of the way.

I just don't agree. The first many people knew about my pregnancy with M, and the first they will know about this pregnancy with Button, is when we put a birth announcement a few days after the birth. I was surprised that a few people messaged their "shock" that I had not told them about the pregnancy before this point but surely if we were that good friends then we would have talked at some point within the almost 42 weeks that I was pregnant - we didn't so they didn't know.

Many people who were friends with us on Facebook knew we were pregnant because we spoke to them and told them. We didn't feel we needed to tell all and sundry on Facebook about our news. Many of the people who were are friends with on Facebook are people who we would barely say hi on the street so why would we want to tell them our intimate details?

People also told us that it must have been hard not to put anything up on Facebook, or were we not excited? Erm, no it was not hard not to turn on the computer, log on and announce I was pregnant. I don't tell people when I have eaten an awesome meal and it was just as easy to not put up I was pregnant. As for not being excited, please do not insult us. We were just as excited as anyone who is expecting a baby. How dare they!

Now for the majority of people in the discussion this seemed a weird thing to do. They wanted, and quite rightly so, to announce their pregnancy and to put updates on Facebook. I don't object to people doing that and I think I must have at least 3 or 4 people on Facebook who are doing just that. Yes I enjoy seeing the updates and wish them well but it just isn't for me.

Why can people not understand that not everyone wants to tell the world their secrets on Facebook all the time?

Training Mummy

Training Mummy is a 30 something mum to two beautiful children - a girl born February 2014 and a boy born in October 2015.


  1. I have a love hate relationship with FB - I find it causes so many issues and problems. I rarely use my personal FB page now, really only keeping my FB open to use my blog page (which drives lots of traffic to my blog).
    I'm with you. the people I'm friends with on FB are not real friends as such x

  2. I don't really know why I keep Facebook tbh I think like you say it is more about drama than friendship now