Six months of being parents to two! What have we learnt?

Six months on, are we surviving?

For six months I have been a mum of two, with four of those as a mum with two under two and so far I have loved, almost, every moment of that time. Yes having two is so much harder than just the one but it is also massively rewarding.

So what have I learnt in that time?

  • No matter how far you think you eldest child can walk they inevitably won't, especially when they see their younger sibling being pushed/carried everywhere making a double buggy or buggy board something you might have thought you could live without but something you are so glad you have (even if you do carry the baby). It also means you can go on much longer walks than you might be able to without it.
  • Sometimes you have to let the baby cry. It is easy to quickly try and settle a crying baby and that is fine when the baby is the only child you have but when you have a baby and a toddler, who is massively independent and never normally asks for your attention, there are times that you have to deal with the toddler and make the baby wait a wee bit. It sounds cruel but if you never then the toddler will constantly be told they have to wait and I can't imagine that will make for a good relationship between them with the baby.
  • If baby and toddler sleep at the same time then use that time to relax and put feet up. Cleaning and household chores can wait. 

  • Find time for special one-one times with both the baby and the toddler. It is easy to spend time together as a family but finding time apart can be a bit harder but quality one-one time is brilliant.
  • Your toddler's sleep might be a bit disturbed when new baby arrives. We used to get 6pm to 10:30am from M before F arrived and now she sometimes gets up at 7 or 8am. Thankfully 9am is still more if the norm. Part of this is down to her toilet training through the night but her sleep did change from F arrived and she heard him crying through the night - and yes she is a child who won't wake for anything and has been such a great sleeper. I can't complain as she still goes to bed a 7 so we get 12-13 hours but I do miss my 10:30am starts!
  • Getting out of the house becomes a chore and takes so much longer. I take far less in change bag for both children combined than I did for M on her own but it still takes so long. I remember a time when it took seconds to get ready and leave the house not 10-15 minutes!
  • Illness will almost constantly be in the house, passing itself from one child to the other and back again. Don't forget that you will also catch every possible bug.
  • It is the most fun, the most rewarding experience, the best thing that you could ever imagine living through and they are yours, all yours! Enjoy ever second because time passes much quicker second time round!


Training Mummy

Training Mummy is a 30 something mum to two beautiful children - a girl born February 2014 and a boy born in October 2015.

2 comments :

  1. Aww! How lovely!
    It sounds like things are going well...
    It is such a learning curve having two but yes! So rewarding :) x

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  2. Aww bless. It's such a big learning curve going from 1-2. It does get easier. Hugs xx

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